Positive Thinking - is it science fiction or science fact?
You wouldn't tell a child that they were stupid or ugly or no good, would you?
Of course not! Not if you're any kind of decent human being that is. We all know that children grow up believing what they are told.
So why do so many of us say the same horrible things about ourselves?
These are just a few of the ridiculous things that we tell ourselves, things that are keeping us from being the completely awesome individuals that we were meant to be; that we really are!
There is a scene in the movie The Notebook where one of the characters tells herself "I am a stupid woman"... and it just makes. me. sad!
I'm not sure if she was raised by people who believed that women are stupid, or if her husband told her she was stupid all the time, or if Nicholas Sparks just put it in the book to make me sad. But I do know that every time she says that, she believes it a little more.
I've heard many doubters say that there is no way that using positive thinking can make a difference. To those people, I ask "would you tell yourself every day that you have a serious illness?"
The answer is always a resounding "No!".
No surprise there. We tend to believe that we can make bad things happen by thinking about them, but too often don't believe we can make positive changes the same way.
But positive thinking can lead to positive results. We believe the things we say to ourselves whether they are positive or negative.
This is supported by a plethora of studies including one outlined in Prevention Magazine. The article states "if being stressed weren't bad enough, thinking you're stressed might also cause serious problems".
Stress is related to a greater risk of coronary heart disease, and it doesn't even matter if you're really stressed, it matters how much you think you're stressed.
It works the other way too!
As supported by the Mayo Clinic, "positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health."
Positive thinking doesn't mean that you try fooling yourself or don't pay attention to what is actually going on in the world around you. Positive thinking starts with self-talk.
Some negative thinking may come from experience or reason, but most of it comes from misconceptions or fear.
According to the Mayo Clinic, positive thinking can lead to:
"Right thinking begins with the words we say to ourselves." ~ James Allen
This is the easiest way to start because all you have to do is read a little.
Studies have traced a wide array of benefits to the simple act of writing down things for which we are grateful. Better sleep, fewer illnesses, and more happiness are just a few.
Pay attention to what you say to yourself, and ask those near you to help out. When you start saying something negative, turn it around into a positive.
We all have moments of self-doubt. Everybody has regrets. We all do stupid things and mess up once in a while.
Let yourself be human. Learn to laugh at yourself and your mistakes. And when you can't laugh realize that you can't change the past, let it go, and move on.
Will it work?